Alternative Wedding Speech

 If you are somewhat confident with making the speech you can enhance it with some novelty extras! Sometimes a picture can tell a thousand words. An alternative approach might be to show a Powerpoint presentation with humorous pictures.  Photographs of the couple when young will always raise a smile, especially nappy shots, old fashioned clothes/hairstyles and in dressing up garb.  Visit: for a full guide to making your special wedding speech.

Wedding Speeches – when to do them

speech-groom.jpgSpeeches are traditionally done after the meal however an alternative approach now is to give the speeches at the start of the reception so that nervous speakers can then relax and enjoy the meal which was so carefully planned – breaking with tradition can be a good thing and hunger may also produce shorter speeches which everyone will enjoy!

Alternatively, have the speeches after the second course, by doing it this way hunger pangs are quietened and speakers still save on the indigestion! If you do decide on either of these options be sure to tell the venue management, as the chef will have to time the courses accordingly. If you do have the speeches at the beginning, then arrange to have a toast at the end of the meal to wrap things up. For a full guide on wedding speeches see:

Who Says What? – Wedding Speeches

wedding-speech.jpgWHO SAYS WHAT? 

These are the important traditional points that should be included in each speech:

 Father of the Bride 

·         First to speak

·         Welcomes everyone to the reception

·         Thanks everyone involved in planning the wedding

·         Speaks proudly of his daughter and welcomes the groom to the family

·         Proposes a toast to bride and groom


·         Speaks second

·         Speaks on behalf of himself and his new wife

·         Thanks the father of the bride for welcoming him to family

·         Thanks everyone who helped with the big day especially the best man and the bridesmaids

·         Thanks everyone for coming to the wedding and for their gifts

·         Praises his new wife

·         Toasts the bridesmaids


·         Master of ceremonies for the day

·         Introduces all speakers

·         Speaks last

·         Thanks groom on behalf of the bridesmaids (for the toast)

·         Thanks groom for the honour of being asked to be his best man

·         Compliments everyone on the great day

·         Tells stories about how the couple met / fell in love and of the stag party

·         Reads out messages from absent family and friends (letters/emails/telegrams)

·         Propose a toast to the bride and groom

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Your Wedding Speech – we’re rooting for you!

grooms-speech-nice.jpgWhile you may be nervous at the thought of making a speech at a wedding, rest assured this is probably the only time that you will have a completely welcoming and positive audience. Think of all the speeches made across the world every day to restless crowds, hostile audiences and bored people.  You on the other hand are talking to people who want to hear what you are going to say. The wedding speeches are one of the ‘talk after’ points of every wedding, so you want to say something memorable.

Although you may be addressing a large number of people, each and every one of them is rooting for you as much as for their most loved sports team.  After all, they are your guests or at least the guests of your friend’s or family and are listening to you speak because of the great, wonderful and loving marriage that is taking place on this special day.

Less is definitely more.  Brevity is the soul of wit.  And if you are nervous, then a short speech once started will finish sooner. Short and funny is better than long and boring.

A great site for full guidelines on weding speech making and sample speeches which you can easily recreate your own award winner from is Try it, they have great packages for grooms, bestmen, brides, fathers and more.

Speech construction


As with good stories, all good speeches have a start, a middle and an end.  At its most simple, the start welcomes everyone to the very special day.   The middle talks about the couple. The end thanks everyone who helped.


And remember, sometimes it pays to break the rules, so why we suggest writing your speech a certain way, exceptions can always prove the rule and create the most interesting results.  So, break a leg, break a rule and break into song if you like! For full wedding speech guidelines visit:

Speech Dos and Don’ts

speech-grooms.jpgNO NOs 

  • Bad taste jokes (race, religion or sex). If you have to indulge wait until you are at the bar later on.
  • Mother-in-law jokes.  This is the day to give them a miss.
  • Stories about previous girlfriends or boyfriends – whether happy or awful.
  • Long rambling shaggy dog stories.  Save them for the dog!
  • Get drunk – at least wait until you finished your speech.
  • Criticise harshly – it is an important day and everyone wants to remember it for the right reasons.
  • The near cancellation. Planning a wedding can be an extremely stressful experience for a couple, so if there was a possibility that the wedding was to be cancelled, don’t mention it – they’ve been through a tough enough time.


  • Practice.
  • Prepare notes – a neat piece of card with bullet points written it will help you remember the important ‘thank yous’ and mentions you need to make if your brain freezes just before you speak. 
  • Speak clearly – check the microphone is working. ‘Can everyone hear me?’ 
  • Speak slowly – remember adrenalin will make you speak much faster so pace yourself.
  • Make small pauses in the speech. If you have your whole speech written out, mark the places you should take a pause and catch your breath.
  • Make eye contact with the people you refer to during the speech.
  • Smile – it makes all the difference.

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Speech Preparation

speech-preparation.jpgUnless you are a toastmaster, we recommend preparation.  Another tip is to ask for help.  Family and friends will often have good stories that will flesh out your speech.  Fellow speech givers may also have anecdotes that suit the occasion. Test your speech on a friend or out loud in front of a mirror.

Caste of thousands.  Just for today, this wedding is Broadway, Hollywood and Cannes all rolled into one.  Thank everyone who helped out – from Auntie Margaret who made the cake to Uncle Peter who provided the limousine transport – even the staff at the reception liked to be thanked, if appropriate.

Suitability.  Remember, you are talking to a mixed audience, from grannies to tiny tots. No blue jokes, no in-house jokes, and no longwinded stories about obscure friends or family members only known to a select few.

Prepare a cue card with important points and the essential thank yous of your speech on it. Avoid the grubby piece of paper torn out of a jotter with your illegible scrawl on it. For more tips about wedding speeches check out:

Who Speaks At The Wedding

bestman-speech.jpg The traditional people to speak at a wedding are: 

  • Father of the Bride
  • Groom
  • Best Man

If you have a religious ceremony, the celebrant will normally attend the reception and may also give a short talk.  It is more likely, however, that they will just say a blessing before the meal.  

If there is no Master of Ceremonies, it is the bestman’s job to call people’s attention and invite the celebrant to say ‘grace’ or the blessing.

Increasingly, there are many more people who speak at the wedding, including the bride, mother of the bride, parents of the groom, bridesmaids, godparents, old family friends…the list is endless. Once you have decided who is going to speak, the only task left is to make sure that certain people are thanked and certain toasts are made. For a full guide to making a special speech see: